We seek forgiveness from Allah ta'ala for not taking benefit of the first ten days of Ramadan due to our negligence, laziness and ignorance. We wasted time and those valuable moments will not be returned to us. Hence, we are regretting.
To live from the ages between twenty five and forty is a great blessing from Allah ta'ala. This is because during this age span, we are given full strength. We are at the peak of health and are completely physically abled. One is able withstand sicknesses and difficulties. We possess high standards, good earnings and we have many hopes. It is the height of one's development.
Unfortunately, the youth waste time. We should understand the value of our age range. We are busy in enjoyment, fulfilling our desires and becoming stronger.
If we are given a guide, we will be able to rectify our lives. It is a great gift from Allah ta'ala to be given guidance at this age. Allah ta'ala grants everything to a person during this time in his life, beauty, power etc.
If a person is given a guide during this age range, he also attains the nearness to Allah ta'ala and the high levels in the Hereafter. Either one becomes a WaliAllah or he becomes a businessman. This is the age to become a WaliAllah as this is the age to earn and attain.
The purpose of life is to control our desires and this age range is when our desires, demands and requirements are at its peak. If a person crushes his desires at this stage and advances towards Allah ta'ala, then he has become a high level human being. This is why Allah ta'ala grants us Wilaayat in this age. We should pull ourselves together and aim for this.
Allah ta'ala also granted prophet hood to the Prophet ﷺ at the age of forty. Whether you're a girl or a boy, you should not follow your desires as your brain is still not mature. During this age, one tends to make wrong decisions and he does things for the sake of his ego.
A person who makes the right decisions and turns to Allah ta'ala, becomes close to Him. A person runs from a WaliAllah when he is afraid to sacrifice the world and give up sins. A person who does not care about the world, accepts whatever is in his destiny. Rather, he sits in the company of the pious and knows that he will be given blessings due to it.
This age range is where we have a need for the world, but, if we turn away from it during this age, it is a very great thing. Thereafter, when we reach forty, we shouldn't regret wasting time.
After forty, one's burdens and responsibilities increase. He faces thousands of sorrows and his greed increases. A person becomes miserly when he is in old age. He hides his wealth.
Those under forty should be prepared to sacrifice everything for Allah ta'ala's friendship. They should change their direction and purchase Paradise. We should work hard until forty and strive to get closer to Allah ta'ala in order to attain the ranks of Wilaayat. We should not delay. Whether we are married or not, we should assess how much nearness to Allah ta'ala we have attained and how much we have crushed our desires.
If we supress our desires in our youth and sacrifice our power and vigour for Allah ta'ala, then Allah ta'ala will grant us according to our needs and necessities in our old age. Allah ta'ala will reduce our sorrows and distress. Allah ta'ala will be responsible for us and provide for us when we are older. He will feed us whilst we are sat at home. This is because Allah ta'ala appreciated that this person attained His nearness whilst he was young and sacrificed the world for His sake. This is the decision we must make today.
The youth should give up their time, energy and focus for Allah ta'ala and leave their decisions to Him.
First, we should seek the shelter of a guide. Our desire to find a Sheikh must be sincere. Thereafter, Allah ta'ala will assist us in our search. Allah ta'ala has already ordained our sustenance and how much we will earn in our life. We cannot increase or decrease it so, we should not seek to increase it, nor worry that it will decrease. Rather, we must seek protection from a Sheikh and adhere to his instructions.
If we wish our children to be correct, we should correct ourselves at a young age prior to marriage. Marriage is not simply to fulfil our desires. It is considered greed to marry one after the other. In reality, there are conditions of keeping four wives and it is not for our lust and enjoyment like many do. We shouldn’t have incorrect intentions.
We should assess how much we have changed ourselves during the first ten days of Ramadan. We are not required to engage in much worship. Rather, during these ten days of forgiveness, we should perform those actions which have been prescribed to us.
Nabi ﷺ stated that the mission of Ramadan is to re-establish the connection which we have lost with Allah ta'ala. Allah ta'ala is displeased with us and if He was pleased, then our parents and our neighbours would be pleased with us. Most of all, our wife would have have been pleased with us.
We have false hopes that Allah ta'ala is pleased with us due to our prayers so, we go for Umrah. Rather, the sign of Allah ta'ala's pleasure is that our parents should be pleased with us and they are supplicating for us, we do not disobey them and we are fulfilling their desires. Even if they oppress us, we must not treat them wrongfully.
We should not curse our parents or treat them bad due to other relatives. We should be respectful to them and take care of them during their old age otherwise, they will be the reason for our entry in to Hellfire.
Each person has their own rights which we must fulfil. There is often a clash between the mother in law and daughter in law. If you have a Sheikh, you will learn to have a balance between both and you won't submit to either. You will fulfil both of their rights.
When the balance is absent, then divorce takes place and corruption spreads in the home. The wife abandons the children as her husband inclines towards his mother's decisions. He ignores the wife and for this reason the wife makes a stand as she is not his slave.
In reality, the wife has complete rights. She has come to you on one condition in your marriage and that is the contract between you and Allah ta'ala through the Nikah. You did not sign a contract with your mother, yet with your wife you signed a contract in front of witnesses that you will shelter her, take care of her and provide everything for her.
It is forbidden for the man to force the wife to stay with his mother and to serve her. This is where corruption begins in society - where there is imbalance. The wife will never live in peace and she will keep persevering, however, when her children grow up she may take revenge against the husband as he treated her badly and failed to provide her rights.
If you can keep the balance between both, you will be granted Paradise. Your duty is to keep both smiling. You should complain to Allah ta'ala crying and not to your mother or your wife. This is the month of patience and the Prophet ﷺ taught us this.
This is the month of pleasing Allah ta'ala and the sign is that our wife and parents are pleased with us. This is the worship which we must fulfil instead of Hajj and Umrah. We must apply our efforts and energy here and we shouldn't decrease our love for anyone.
You should seek pardon from your mother in oppressing your wife and remind her that your wife is also the daughter of somebody. You should remind your mother that it is your duty to provide for your wife and grant her a separate dwelling. This is the balance we must adhere to.
The mother who destabilises the home will be taken to task and the husband, wife or mother who was patient upon the difficulties will be given Paradise.
How to make Allah ta'ala pleased with us?
When we please His creation, for example, please the wife and the mother, etc.
Allah loves the person who transforms himself by visiting the Sheikh for the sake of bay'ah. Allah ta'ala is pleased with this servant as they have attained Ramadan.
We seek forgiveness from Allah ta'ala for not taking benefit of the first ten days of Ramadan due to our negligence, laziness and ignorance. We wasted time and those valuable moments will not be returned to us. Hence, we are regretting.
To live from the ages between twenty five and forty is a great blessing from Allah ta'ala. This is because during this age span, we are given full strength. We are at the peak of health and are completely physically abled. One is able withstand sicknesses and difficulties. We possess high standards, good earnings and we have many hopes. It is the height of one's development.
Unfortunately, the youth waste time. We should understand the value of our age range. We are busy in enjoyment, fulfilling our desires and becoming stronger.
If we are given a guide, we will be able to rectify our lives. It is a great gift from Allah ta'ala to be given guidance at this age. Allah ta'ala grants everything to a person during this time in his life, beauty, power etc.
If a person is given a guide during this age range, he also attains the nearness to Allah ta'ala and the high levels in the Hereafter. Either one becomes a WaliAllah or he becomes a businessman. This is the age to become a WaliAllah as this is the age to earn and attain.
The purpose of life is to control our desires and this age range is when our desires, demands and requirements are at its peak. If a person crushes his desires at this stage and advances towards Allah ta'ala, then he has become a high level human being. This is why Allah ta'ala grants us Wilaayat in this age. We should pull ourselves together and aim for this.
Allah ta'ala also granted prophet hood to the Prophet ﷺ at the age of forty. Whether you're a girl or a boy, you should not follow your desires as your brain is still not mature. During this age, one tends to make wrong decisions and he does things for the sake of his ego.
A person who makes the right decisions and turns to Allah ta'ala, becomes close to Him. A person runs from a WaliAllah when he is afraid to sacrifice the world and give up sins. A person who does not care about the world, accepts whatever is in his destiny. Rather, he sits in the company of the pious and knows that he will be given blessings due to it.
This age range is where we have a need for the world, but, if we turn away from it during this age, it is a very great thing. Thereafter, when we reach forty, we shouldn't regret wasting time.
After forty, one's burdens and responsibilities increase. He faces thousands of sorrows and his greed increases. A person becomes miserly when he is in old age. He hides his wealth.
Those under forty should be prepared to sacrifice everything for Allah ta'ala's friendship. They should change their direction and purchase Paradise. We should work hard until forty and strive to get closer to Allah ta'ala in order to attain the ranks of Wilaayat. We should not delay. Whether we are married or not, we should assess how much nearness to Allah ta'ala we have attained and how much we have crushed our desires.
If we supress our desires in our youth and sacrifice our power and vigour for Allah ta'ala, then Allah ta'ala will grant us according to our needs and necessities in our old age. Allah ta'ala will reduce our sorrows and distress. Allah ta'ala will be responsible for us and provide for us when we are older. He will feed us whilst we are sat at home. This is because Allah ta'ala appreciated that this person attained His nearness whilst he was young and sacrificed the world for His sake. This is the decision we must make today.
The youth should give up their time, energy and focus for Allah ta'ala and leave their decisions to Him.
First, we should seek the shelter of a guide. Our desire to find a Sheikh must be sincere. Thereafter, Allah ta'ala will assist us in our search. Allah ta'ala has already ordained our sustenance and how much we will earn in our life. We cannot increase or decrease it so, we should not seek to increase it, nor worry that it will decrease. Rather, we must seek protection from a Sheikh and adhere to his instructions.
If we wish our children to be correct, we should correct ourselves at a young age prior to marriage. Marriage is not simply to fulfil our desires. It is considered greed to marry one after the other. In reality, there are conditions of keeping four wives and it is not for our lust and enjoyment like many do. We shouldn’t have incorrect intentions.
We should assess how much we have changed ourselves during the first ten days of Ramadan. We are not required to engage in much worship. Rather, during these ten days of forgiveness, we should perform those actions which have been prescribed to us.
Nabi ﷺ stated that the mission of Ramadan is to re-establish the connection which we have lost with Allah ta'ala. Allah ta'ala is displeased with us and if He was pleased, then our parents and our neighbours would be pleased with us. Most of all, our wife would have have been pleased with us.
We have false hopes that Allah ta'ala is pleased with us due to our prayers so, we go for Umrah. Rather, the sign of Allah ta'ala's pleasure is that our parents should be pleased with us and they are supplicating for us, we do not disobey them and we are fulfilling their desires. Even if they oppress us, we must not treat them wrongfully.
We should not curse our parents or treat them bad due to other relatives. We should be respectful to them and take care of them during their old age otherwise, they will be the reason for our entry in to Hellfire.
Each person has their own rights which we must fulfil. There is often a clash between the mother in law and daughter in law. If you have a Sheikh, you will learn to have a balance between both and you won't submit to either. You will fulfil both of their rights.
When the balance is absent, then divorce takes place and corruption spreads in the home. The wife abandons the children as her husband inclines towards his mother's decisions. He ignores the wife and for this reason the wife makes a stand as she is not his slave.
In reality, the wife has complete rights. She has come to you on one condition in your marriage and that is the contract between you and Allah ta'ala through the Nikah. You did not sign a contract with your mother, yet with your wife you signed a contract in front of witnesses that you will shelter her, take care of her and provide everything for her.
It is forbidden for the man to force the wife to stay with his mother and to serve her. This is where corruption begins in society - where there is imbalance. The wife will never live in peace and she will keep persevering, however, when her children grow up she may take revenge against the husband as he treated her badly and failed to provide her rights.
If you can keep the balance between both, you will be granted Paradise. Your duty is to keep both smiling. You should complain to Allah ta'ala crying and not to your mother or your wife. This is the month of patience and the Prophet ﷺ taught us this.
This is the month of pleasing Allah ta'ala and the sign is that our wife and parents are pleased with us. This is the worship which we must fulfil instead of Hajj and Umrah. We must apply our efforts and energy here and we shouldn't decrease our love for anyone.
You should seek pardon from your mother in oppressing your wife and remind her that your wife is also the daughter of somebody. You should remind your mother that it is your duty to provide for your wife and grant her a separate dwelling. This is the balance we must adhere to.
The mother who destabilises the home will be taken to task and the husband, wife or mother who was patient upon the difficulties will be given Paradise.
How to make Allah ta'ala pleased with us?
When we please His creation, for example, please the wife and the mother, etc.
Allah loves the person who transforms himself by visiting the Sheikh for the sake of bay'ah. Allah ta'ala is pleased with this servant as they have attained Ramadan.
May Allah ta'ala allow us to implement. Ameen