On qiyamah the cause of remorse will be when a person performs alot of good deeds in the world and worked hard, righteous deeds were implemented, but he will not recieve all his good deeds and he will be extremely distressed. Where is my tahajjud? Where are my good deeds?
This is because he would earn deeds but he would also do actions alongside which would annul his deeds. He wouldn't pay attention that he was performing such valuable deeds and actions and at the same time he is cancelling them out.
He was proud that he was a worshipper and pious but he wasn't cautious of the sins. Allah says don't waste your deeds!
O you who believe! Obey Allah, and obey the Messenger (Muhammad SAW) and render not vain your deeds.
(Muhammad, verse 33)
He worshipped alot in the world but wasn't cautious so he finds no good deeds on qiyamah.
The example of our good deeds being wasted is when one fills a vessel with water but there is a hole at the bottom and no matter how much he fills it, the water keeps leaking from the bottom.
We work hard but we don't care. We depend on our great worship and we ignore our sins. There is no such thing as a small sin. We think sins have to be major like zina, alcohol and eating flesh or swine. We dont consider other things as sins.
We consider these (zina,etc) as major sins because we are worried about societal sins. We fear other people will see us sinning so we don't go to the bar.
In reality there are more dangerous sins compared to these. And because they are easy to commit, we don't give them importance in terms of steering away from them and with ease we commit them and regard them as insignificant.
Rather, those sins of zina alcohol etc, in comparison to the other ones we see as small scale, they are nothing! Because they're easy to commit and there's nothing to prevent us. Within a second a person can just move his tongue and commit a sin. Merely moving the tongue incorrectly becomes a major sin and we say it's nothing!
Allah has explained clearly in the quran that it is a sin. But due to fear of society we refrain from those certain sins but we are quick to move our tongue and earn major sins.
If you move your tongue incorrectly, Allah will not accept such a person's dua. Allah says you've committed that sin and you didn't consider it as a sin so Allah doesn't accept his dua and neither are his deeds accepted due to the wretchedness of his sins. A person then doesn't stop there, he continues to commit this sin as shaytan and nafs make him see it as small.
Backbiting wipes out good deeds. Alcohol in comparison to backbiting is not a big thing. Backbiting is worse than zina. And the Prophet صلي الله عليه وسلم said this, these are not my words.
Because after zina a person repents and his repentance may be accepted, but with backbiting your repentance won't be accepted until you ask for forgiveness from that person. May Allah forgive us
Shaytan makes rendering our good deeds through sins as a minor deal to us. If we want to analyse if something is a minor or major sin, we shouldn't follow our nafs and say Allah is most forgiving. It's okay as I've done many righteous deeds so we justify ourselves whilst sinning but we don't realise that in akhirah we won't find these good deeds!
So the Prophet صلي الله عليه وسلم told us to save ourselves from these sins.
What is backbiting?
Backbiting is when you speak about your fellow brother and if he heard it, he wouldn't like it. Whether it is about his body or his thinking, any defects. "Oh look at his nose, look at his limp."
Aishah رضي الله عنها once said about a woman that she was short. Nothing major, and immediately Nabi صلي الله عليه وسلم said oh Aishah رضي الله عنها ,"you have backbited." This the Prophet's صلي الله عليه وسلم 's tarbiyyah. This occurred so people dont regard backbiting as something insignificant today!
Aishah رضي الله عنها only uttered blessed and pure statements but the Prophet صلي الله عليه وسلم didn't say, "oh she's my wife" and disregarded what she said.
Rather, he warned her straight away.
Don't belittle and degrade someone as this is the pride and arrogance within us.
If we backbited about other's body or regarding their life or their defects or the way they speak, maybe such a person will be in Jannah tomorrow and you will be in Jahannam. So we must be careful to this extent that you should not even speak about his clothes, "this doesn't look good on him, it's tight on him," or even comments regarding his transportation. "This person looks like a joker, he looks like a monkey." This is all wrong.
Don't speak about anyone else because all this accumulates and comes under backbiting.
Sins overwhelm such a person and his ibadah and good deeds become eliminated. There is no blessings for him. Why?
Because the Quran has said that those who backbite, it's as if they are consuming the flesh of his dead brother.
Allah says would you like to consume the flesh of your dead brother? Allah is asking this question. No one in the world would desire to do this. No one could imagine doing this, so Allah is telling us in the Quran that if you think this is unreasonable and disliked, then that's exactly what you are doing when backbiting!
We are in massive deception. The way to be saved from this and the only cure for this is to put your hand on your Quran and promise to Allah that you won't speak about anyone else. Place a fine on yourself if you do it. Such a person's deen will be saved.
Today, In the Khankah backbiting takes place. All day long we do Dhikr and we commit this sin as we dont have the right Deen infront of us. We give speeches, we debate and criticise others. The deen is a straight path and we need to adopt this path and then we don't need to worry about anything else.
If you take hold of the hand of the one who is on the straight path, then you will be guided and won't be deviated.
I can swear that not once did I hear from my honourable Shaykh's blessed tongue any criticism regarding other muslims. Rather, he warned me not to quarrel nor be involved in disputes. He told me to do one thing which is teach people Dhikr, revive their hearts and engrain the love the Prophet صلي الله عليه وسلم in their hearts and I understood this. I didn't worry that this person is a barelvi etc
We should worry about ourselves and not others. This is what Awliyah Allah teach us. In the grave Allah wont ask who so and so was he will ask who were you?
Avoid debating and providing proofs to each other, just move to the side silently.
Where does backbiting emanate from?
The tongue.
Allah has told us the cure which is in the Quran
O you who believe! Remember Allah with much remembrance.
(Al-Ahzab, verse 41)
If you want to save yourself from a big sin then instead of using your tongue for wasteful purposes and nonsense, instead use it for the light of Dhikr. Allah has put blessings in Dhikr that the more you remember Allah, all negative statements will cease from the tongue. A person then becomes used to not using his tongue for negative things.
In reality, we have no need to speak about the matters of others.
We made such effort in Ramadan to do good deeds, so we should be wary of wasting our deeds through backbiting lest we wont receive our rewards in the hereafter!
The nafs says you can backbite, because you're a worshipper but there is a punishment for this action.
The Prophet صلي الله عليه وسلم said, "If you speak bad about someone else, it is backbiting."
When a person belittles a muslim, Allah will stand him on the bridge of Jahannam on the day of judgement.
And because this sin is done quickly and no one's watching, we take it lightly. If we wish to commit zina or drink alcohol we think twice because we know people may see us. This is why we don't see backbiting as a big sin.
From today we should promise to put a padlock on our tongues and not to speak about anyone else. Make your tongue accustomed to doing Dhikr of Allah. If you have the company of a wali Allah, then it is light upon light, you should do exactly what he does. That's it.
This is because he would earn deeds but he would also do actions alongside which would annul his deeds. He wouldn't pay attention that he was performing such valuable deeds and actions and at the same time he is cancelling them out.
He was proud that he was a worshipper and pious but he wasn't cautious of the sins. Allah says don't waste your deeds!
۞ يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا أَطِيعُوا اللَّهَ وَأَطِيعُوا الرَّسُولَ وَلَا تُبْطِلُوا أَعْمَالَكُمْ
(سورة محمّـد، الآيه ٣٣)
O you who believe! Obey Allah, and obey the Messenger (Muhammad SAW) and render not vain your deeds.
(Muhammad, verse 33)
He worshipped alot in the world but wasn't cautious so he finds no good deeds on qiyamah.
The example of our good deeds being wasted is when one fills a vessel with water but there is a hole at the bottom and no matter how much he fills it, the water keeps leaking from the bottom.
We work hard but we don't care. We depend on our great worship and we ignore our sins. There is no such thing as a small sin. We think sins have to be major like zina, alcohol and eating flesh or swine. We dont consider other things as sins.
We consider these (zina,etc) as major sins because we are worried about societal sins. We fear other people will see us sinning so we don't go to the bar.
In reality there are more dangerous sins compared to these. And because they are easy to commit, we don't give them importance in terms of steering away from them and with ease we commit them and regard them as insignificant.
Rather, those sins of zina alcohol etc, in comparison to the other ones we see as small scale, they are nothing! Because they're easy to commit and there's nothing to prevent us. Within a second a person can just move his tongue and commit a sin. Merely moving the tongue incorrectly becomes a major sin and we say it's nothing!
Allah has explained clearly in the quran that it is a sin. But due to fear of society we refrain from those certain sins but we are quick to move our tongue and earn major sins.
If you move your tongue incorrectly, Allah will not accept such a person's dua. Allah says you've committed that sin and you didn't consider it as a sin so Allah doesn't accept his dua and neither are his deeds accepted due to the wretchedness of his sins. A person then doesn't stop there, he continues to commit this sin as shaytan and nafs make him see it as small.
Backbiting wipes out good deeds. Alcohol in comparison to backbiting is not a big thing. Backbiting is worse than zina. And the Prophet صلي الله عليه وسلم said this, these are not my words.
Because after zina a person repents and his repentance may be accepted, but with backbiting your repentance won't be accepted until you ask for forgiveness from that person. May Allah forgive us
Shaytan makes rendering our good deeds through sins as a minor deal to us. If we want to analyse if something is a minor or major sin, we shouldn't follow our nafs and say Allah is most forgiving. It's okay as I've done many righteous deeds so we justify ourselves whilst sinning but we don't realise that in akhirah we won't find these good deeds!
So the Prophet صلي الله عليه وسلم told us to save ourselves from these sins.
What is backbiting?
Backbiting is when you speak about your fellow brother and if he heard it, he wouldn't like it. Whether it is about his body or his thinking, any defects. "Oh look at his nose, look at his limp."
Aishah رضي الله عنها once said about a woman that she was short. Nothing major, and immediately Nabi صلي الله عليه وسلم said oh Aishah رضي الله عنها ,"you have backbited." This the Prophet's صلي الله عليه وسلم 's tarbiyyah. This occurred so people dont regard backbiting as something insignificant today!
Aishah رضي الله عنها only uttered blessed and pure statements but the Prophet صلي الله عليه وسلم didn't say, "oh she's my wife" and disregarded what she said.
Rather, he warned her straight away.
Don't belittle and degrade someone as this is the pride and arrogance within us.
If we backbited about other's body or regarding their life or their defects or the way they speak, maybe such a person will be in Jannah tomorrow and you will be in Jahannam. So we must be careful to this extent that you should not even speak about his clothes, "this doesn't look good on him, it's tight on him," or even comments regarding his transportation. "This person looks like a joker, he looks like a monkey." This is all wrong.
Don't speak about anyone else because all this accumulates and comes under backbiting.
Sins overwhelm such a person and his ibadah and good deeds become eliminated. There is no blessings for him. Why?
Because the Quran has said that those who backbite, it's as if they are consuming the flesh of his dead brother.
Allah says would you like to consume the flesh of your dead brother? Allah is asking this question. No one in the world would desire to do this. No one could imagine doing this, so Allah is telling us in the Quran that if you think this is unreasonable and disliked, then that's exactly what you are doing when backbiting!
We are in massive deception. The way to be saved from this and the only cure for this is to put your hand on your Quran and promise to Allah that you won't speak about anyone else. Place a fine on yourself if you do it. Such a person's deen will be saved.
Today, In the Khankah backbiting takes place. All day long we do Dhikr and we commit this sin as we dont have the right Deen infront of us. We give speeches, we debate and criticise others. The deen is a straight path and we need to adopt this path and then we don't need to worry about anything else.
If you take hold of the hand of the one who is on the straight path, then you will be guided and won't be deviated.
I can swear that not once did I hear from my honourable Shaykh's blessed tongue any criticism regarding other muslims. Rather, he warned me not to quarrel nor be involved in disputes. He told me to do one thing which is teach people Dhikr, revive their hearts and engrain the love the Prophet صلي الله عليه وسلم in their hearts and I understood this. I didn't worry that this person is a barelvi etc
We should worry about ourselves and not others. This is what Awliyah Allah teach us. In the grave Allah wont ask who so and so was he will ask who were you?
Avoid debating and providing proofs to each other, just move to the side silently.
Where does backbiting emanate from?
The tongue.
Allah has told us the cure which is in the Quran
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اذْكُرُوا اللَّهَ ذِكْرًا كَثِيرًا
(سورة الأحزاب، الآيه ٤١)
O you who believe! Remember Allah with much remembrance.
(Al-Ahzab, verse 41)
If you want to save yourself from a big sin then instead of using your tongue for wasteful purposes and nonsense, instead use it for the light of Dhikr. Allah has put blessings in Dhikr that the more you remember Allah, all negative statements will cease from the tongue. A person then becomes used to not using his tongue for negative things.
In reality, we have no need to speak about the matters of others.
We made such effort in Ramadan to do good deeds, so we should be wary of wasting our deeds through backbiting lest we wont receive our rewards in the hereafter!
The nafs says you can backbite, because you're a worshipper but there is a punishment for this action.
The Prophet صلي الله عليه وسلم said, "If you speak bad about someone else, it is backbiting."
When a person belittles a muslim, Allah will stand him on the bridge of Jahannam on the day of judgement.
And because this sin is done quickly and no one's watching, we take it lightly. If we wish to commit zina or drink alcohol we think twice because we know people may see us. This is why we don't see backbiting as a big sin.
From today we should promise to put a padlock on our tongues and not to speak about anyone else. Make your tongue accustomed to doing Dhikr of Allah. If you have the company of a wali Allah, then it is light upon light, you should do exactly what he does. That's it.
May Allah swt grant us the taufeeq to implement!