The thing which causes the biggest loss in society is arguing and fighting. This is the most beloved action of shaytan.
This is what leads to murder, lack of peace, anxiety, breaking down of relationships, internal sicknesses and violating rights etc.
Everything emanates from here.
Shaytan loves creating disputes amongst homes and he gives rewards to his sidekicks when the husband and wife argue amongst each other.
The person may not be bad himself but shaytan influences him internally and the person embarks on that pathway.
Then there is lack of peace and lack of trust, whether it is within the home or outside in society.
One should not even imagine a muslim to be fighting and arguing! It is not the sign of the mu'min! There is severe admonishment for this action. It is haraam for a muslim to dishonor and belittle another muslim, whether he is doing it from his hand or his tongue or through hinting.
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: If anyone suppresses anger when he is in a position to give vent to it, Allah, the Exalted, will call him on the Day of Resurrection over the heads of all creatures, and ask him to choose any of the bright and large eyed maidens he wishes. (Abu dawud)
Abu Huraira reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever suppresses his rage while he is capable of unleashing it, then Allah will fill him with assurance and faith.” Tafsīr al-Ṭabarī 3:134
So a person, amidst the argument he has the power to do something physically but he suppressed his anger. So who will these people be?
These are the Muttaqi who are conscious of thier lord and their hearts are filled with imaan and peace. Such a person saves himself from a big crime of akhlaq and he saves himself from hundreds of ill effects just by suppressing the anger.
Allah is soft and likes those who are soft and not firm. Those who are soft, do not link with sternness.
For example, if you want to advise someone, there are methods you may adopt.
Either with full authority and harshness you approach that person or you use a tender approach.
Nabi ﷺ said, the one who uses the soft approach, will not meet the stern approach. This is because, using the soft approach means suppressing the satanic power of anger.
This speciality of being soft and tender is the way to save ones self from arguing and quarelling. The one who does this, saves himself from a great punishment. So if this Is an important action then taqwa is also based on this. The attribute of a Muttaqi is that he flees from argumentation. He says please forgive me. He has a soft temperament and approaches things softly and cautiously whether its in the house or business related matters etc. This is his style always and this is a sign of a Muttaqi.
How can the Muttaqi not regard argumentation as a bad thing?
Will Allah not make us practise this in Ramadan?
Consider how Allah ta"ala has warned the Ummah through Nabi ﷺ so we can refrain from this act.
Tonight is the night of QADR. And the importance of this Asharah is to seek the night of power. For that, Allah has given us the worship of I'tikaaf. the best way to find laylatul QADR is to go into seclusion. This is the guidance Allah has given.
This night is equivalent to 87 years of worship. Thats how great this night is.
So Allah tells us that argumentation is a wretched action.
Initially Allah ta'ala told the Prophet ﷺ the specific night of QADR. But the Prophet ﷺ stated, "when I knew about the night I wanted to go and tell the people which night it was. When I came out i saw 2 men quarelling amongst each other."
Due to the wretchedness of this arguing, Nabi ﷺ forgot. Obviously Allah ta'ala took this piece of information out of Nabi ﷺ 's mind. However, imagine the ill effects and consequences of fighting! This is how arguing spoils things.
Such a great reward the Ummah was due to recieve but Allah ta'ala wanted to give us a lesson through this event that fighting and quarelling is so impure and wretched, as a result, we will have to seek the night and won't be informed. This is how much Allah disliked that act that he caused
Nabi ﷺ to forget, in order to show us how evil that act was! Allah prevented the knowledge of that night from becomming known.
The Muttaqi has no desire for fighting or spreading corruption wherever he is. His home is paradise. There is alot of peace at home because they all have the endurance.
Whoever develops taqwa through Ramadan, will attain the night of power.
The one who is kind, soft, considerate & friendly, Allah saves him from a thousand sins such as murder, severing people's right & dishonouring people. He is saved from the punishment of these sins in the hereafter.
So Ramadan teaches us generosity, friendliness & kindness.
There is so much dispute today within our homes. It is likened to a cauldron of fire and this is due to the arguing which shaytan has developed within us.
The cure to this is to endure and adopt kindness and softness.
Lower yourself despite possessing power. If someone threatens you, adopt tenderness and the scene will change dramatically and the other person's anger will calm down and Allah's mercy will descend. Whereas, If you are angry Allah's anger will come.
Ramadan gives us this lesson!
So we need to practise this throughout our lives.
The night of power was hidden due to fighting so how will we solve the problems of life through arguing. From today, we must adopt softness and kindness and remove corruption from our homes by lowering ourselves and tolerating those who insult us.
How far should you endure?
To the extent that you want the reward. There's no limit of the reward you'll get as you will have the light of imaan and peace.
If you want to become Muttaqi learn how to mend the broken ties.
We should practice those deeds which will develop taqwa within us. May Allah swt grant us the taufeeq. Ameen
This is what leads to murder, lack of peace, anxiety, breaking down of relationships, internal sicknesses and violating rights etc.
Everything emanates from here.
Shaytan loves creating disputes amongst homes and he gives rewards to his sidekicks when the husband and wife argue amongst each other.
The person may not be bad himself but shaytan influences him internally and the person embarks on that pathway.
Then there is lack of peace and lack of trust, whether it is within the home or outside in society.
One should not even imagine a muslim to be fighting and arguing! It is not the sign of the mu'min! There is severe admonishment for this action. It is haraam for a muslim to dishonor and belittle another muslim, whether he is doing it from his hand or his tongue or through hinting.
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: If anyone suppresses anger when he is in a position to give vent to it, Allah, the Exalted, will call him on the Day of Resurrection over the heads of all creatures, and ask him to choose any of the bright and large eyed maidens he wishes. (Abu dawud)
Abu Huraira reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever suppresses his rage while he is capable of unleashing it, then Allah will fill him with assurance and faith.” Tafsīr al-Ṭabarī 3:134
So a person, amidst the argument he has the power to do something physically but he suppressed his anger. So who will these people be?
These are the Muttaqi who are conscious of thier lord and their hearts are filled with imaan and peace. Such a person saves himself from a big crime of akhlaq and he saves himself from hundreds of ill effects just by suppressing the anger.
Allah is soft and likes those who are soft and not firm. Those who are soft, do not link with sternness.
For example, if you want to advise someone, there are methods you may adopt.
Either with full authority and harshness you approach that person or you use a tender approach.
Nabi ﷺ said, the one who uses the soft approach, will not meet the stern approach. This is because, using the soft approach means suppressing the satanic power of anger.
This speciality of being soft and tender is the way to save ones self from arguing and quarelling. The one who does this, saves himself from a great punishment. So if this Is an important action then taqwa is also based on this. The attribute of a Muttaqi is that he flees from argumentation. He says please forgive me. He has a soft temperament and approaches things softly and cautiously whether its in the house or business related matters etc. This is his style always and this is a sign of a Muttaqi.
How can the Muttaqi not regard argumentation as a bad thing?
Will Allah not make us practise this in Ramadan?
Consider how Allah ta"ala has warned the Ummah through Nabi ﷺ so we can refrain from this act.
Tonight is the night of QADR. And the importance of this Asharah is to seek the night of power. For that, Allah has given us the worship of I'tikaaf. the best way to find laylatul QADR is to go into seclusion. This is the guidance Allah has given.
This night is equivalent to 87 years of worship. Thats how great this night is.
So Allah tells us that argumentation is a wretched action.
Initially Allah ta'ala told the Prophet ﷺ the specific night of QADR. But the Prophet ﷺ stated, "when I knew about the night I wanted to go and tell the people which night it was. When I came out i saw 2 men quarelling amongst each other."
Due to the wretchedness of this arguing, Nabi ﷺ forgot. Obviously Allah ta'ala took this piece of information out of Nabi ﷺ 's mind. However, imagine the ill effects and consequences of fighting! This is how arguing spoils things.
Such a great reward the Ummah was due to recieve but Allah ta'ala wanted to give us a lesson through this event that fighting and quarelling is so impure and wretched, as a result, we will have to seek the night and won't be informed. This is how much Allah disliked that act that he caused
Nabi ﷺ to forget, in order to show us how evil that act was! Allah prevented the knowledge of that night from becomming known.
The Muttaqi has no desire for fighting or spreading corruption wherever he is. His home is paradise. There is alot of peace at home because they all have the endurance.
Whoever develops taqwa through Ramadan, will attain the night of power.
The one who is kind, soft, considerate & friendly, Allah saves him from a thousand sins such as murder, severing people's right & dishonouring people. He is saved from the punishment of these sins in the hereafter.
So Ramadan teaches us generosity, friendliness & kindness.
There is so much dispute today within our homes. It is likened to a cauldron of fire and this is due to the arguing which shaytan has developed within us.
The cure to this is to endure and adopt kindness and softness.
Lower yourself despite possessing power. If someone threatens you, adopt tenderness and the scene will change dramatically and the other person's anger will calm down and Allah's mercy will descend. Whereas, If you are angry Allah's anger will come.
Ramadan gives us this lesson!
So we need to practise this throughout our lives.
The night of power was hidden due to fighting so how will we solve the problems of life through arguing. From today, we must adopt softness and kindness and remove corruption from our homes by lowering ourselves and tolerating those who insult us.
How far should you endure?
To the extent that you want the reward. There's no limit of the reward you'll get as you will have the light of imaan and peace.
If you want to become Muttaqi learn how to mend the broken ties.
We should practice those deeds which will develop taqwa within us. May Allah swt grant us the taufeeq. Ameen