There was a man whom Allah gave Jannah to for one deed - he dropped one chickpea when travelling, and stopped to pick it up to eat it. Why? He had RESPECT for Allah by way of respecting the food Allah gave him.
Tazqia (rectification) is the wudhu (ie the preparation/purification) of sincere ibaadat. The the first step for a student in the path of tazqiyah is RESPECT/MANNERS, ADAB for the teacher. This connection is the main point - it must be strong. Look at the example of the greatest teacher, Rasoolullah salallahu-alaihi-wassalam, and the greatest students, the Sahaabah - their pre-Islamic background was to have very disrespectful behaviour, but Allah revealed in the Quran the need to have the utmost respect for their teacher: "Don't lift your voices above Rasoolullah (saws), otherwise your works will be rendered vain". So without adab/sincerity, without crushing your nafs (such as arrogance/pride), you will get nowhere and all your deed will be useless. Bayat means putting yourself down in humility. Allah finishes that verse with "while you perceive not" (wa antum, la thash uroon) - i.e. the azaab is so great that, not only will all you deeds go to waste, but Allah won't even let you realise it.
The Saahabah didn't eat until Rasoolullah (saws) ate, didn't let their wudhu water fall to the ground. Hadhrat Abu Bakr (ra), after this verse was revealed, put pebbles in his mouth so as not to speak without caution. Another sahabi with a loud voice locked himself in his room to avoid talking to Rasoolullah (saws).
A mureed should be cautious with their Sheikh. If he makes a mistake, he should immediately run to his Sheikh and ask for forgiveness. This is more important than your dhikr, since without it, dhikr is useless. Hadhrat Junaid Baghdadi states students attain different amounts of blessing from their sheikh - some get big bowls full, and others get a small trickle. When you do maraqabat with your sheikh, the blessings go from their heart, into yours - the extent depending on your connection. Hadhrat Abdul Qadr Jilana says that without adab there is no success. Another sheikh says that those students who don't have full adab/trust in their sheikh (such as those who criticise or complain - for example, they moan about being scolded) have BROKEN THEIR BAYAT - it doesn't matter how much dhikr they do. And they won't realise it until the Day of Judgement. If you feel there is something lacking from your sheikh, realise it is actually a defect in you. You should thing that everything in your life is due to the barakat from your sheikh - this is manners. If you look elsewhere, your have betrayed them.
So, you should seek your mistakes, and ask for forgivess from your sheikh. If you identify a mistake (or even if you don't, out of caution) you should immediately ask your sheikh for forgiveness - "Hadhrat, I feel at today's gathering that I didn't have proper respect, please forgive me"
When the Sahaabah were in the company of Rasoolullah (saws), they would lower their faces and not look at them directly. They would be very alert of everything Rasoolullah (saws) said. This is how we should be. If you don't lower your gaze, Allah will remove modesty from you. We should look at our sheikh with awe, not in some careless fashion.
9th Feb, 2017