The dhikr of Allah ta'ala is not the ultimate goal. Rather, through dhikr, a person is strengthened and is shown the path. In reality, dhikr is the cure, but, good character is our target.
We should assess to see whether we have attained the objective of dhikr. The mistake a student often makes is that he holds full conviction in his dhikr and he hopes for all the results from his dhikr alone.
Nabi ﷺ questioned his companions asking, "Who is that individual who has complete Imaan?" Thereafter he said, "Those with complete faith are those who possess excellent manners."
We must purify ourselves from our sins in this world, so that we may enter Paradise without being punished for our sins in Hellfire first. Those who are pure in this world are those with complete faith.
We must fulfil the five pillars of Islam. However, on top of that, our character should be improved. Good character is scarce nowadays. This is because we have abandoned the place whereby a person's character is improved. If one wishes to reform his character, he must visit the Khankah, otherwise, he will not be successful.
Those who have attended the Khankah, if they would like to know whether their dhikr is successful, they should assess their conduct.
People may be impressed with their outward appearance and clothing, however, these things will only become defects for them if they have bad manners. Instead, they will be criticised for attending the Khankah, yet, still not being reformed.
The true student is successful after acquiring sincerity and good manners and a person attains good character via the spiritual hospital - in the company of a wali Allah. It is not necessary to perform dhikr in order to attain good character. Gazing at the pious people is a cure in itself as the AwliyahAllah are those who are permanently alive.
The people with good character receive the reward of a fasting person and the reward of one who remains awake at night
We shouldn’t fight with each other in the Khankah and display enmity towards each other. The punishment for this is severe as we are destroying the Sheikh's Khankah. One who quarrels will be in Hellfire. To have malice and hatred for one another is destruction and oppression. We should repent immediately from this.
Those who clean the Khankah toilets, will receive Paradise and the angels shake the hands of those who clean the Khankah carpets.
Who has the best manners?
The Prophet ﷺ was sent to the world for his great character. He is the accumulation of the magnificence of Allah ta'ala's splendour which descends from the heavens to the Earth. The Prophet ﷺ is all of this combined.
Allah ta'ala sent Nabi ﷺ to a nation which was very corrupt. The people would bury their daughters alive and engage in such acts that animals would not even perform. Nabi ﷺ faced enemies, yet, his enemies would praise him. He was sent to his people to improve them and they were reformed to the extent that there are no greater human beings to come after the companions.
We should acknowledge our defective character and then visit the waliAllah for a solution. If we forget our objective in his company, we will be destroyed.
How to recognise if we have excellent character?
Nabi ﷺ mentioned that a person with the best character, is he whose wife and children are pleased with him.
We may please everyone, but if we please the wife and children, it is a different achievement. A man has indeed a high level character once his wife confirms that he has great character. This is because the first ones to be impressed by his personality are his wife and children. The wife is aware of a man's inner traits. She is the garment for the husband and she is aware of his secrets. Therefore, we should not rely upon anyone else praising the husband or verifying his good character.
It is our responsibility to raise our children properly. We have the task of correcting them and making them pious.
We worry about the upbringing of our children. We resort to boarding schools for their improvement. In reality, this will not build their character and nothing will be achieved from there. This is because they attend when they are teenagers, however, upbringing begins from the time the child is in the womb of the mother.
As soon as the child is born, the fathers actions are his upbringing. Furthermore, the parents actions reflect upon the children and they witness everything. Our actions definitely impact them. If we engage in wrongdoing as parents, they will soon follow suit.
If we wish to improve our children and grant them the right upbringing, we must be rectified ourselves first. We must not lie in front of our children. We should not display immodesty. No matter how small the sin is, it will be absorbed by the child. Children imitate their parents. If we desire our children to observe modesty and we wish for them to eat Halal, we must be a reflection of that ourselves first.
All acts of worship depend upon good character. Thus, when a person has good character, he also performs various acts of worship. Character comes first and it results in worship but if one performs worship, yet, does not have good character, then it is no guarantee that he will be able to sustain it.
First, we must improve our character and thereafter, we will be enabled to perform worship. Such worship will not be weak as it is performed alongside good character. Such worship will also be accepted by Allah ta'ala.
It is natural for a person to imitate someone he looks up to. Thus, we should be careful of befriending and loving those who are against the Prophet ﷺ. Unfortunately, we perform worship and we imitate the Non Muslims alongside. We should not imitate the nation of the non Muslims, otherwise, we will be reckoned with them in the Hereafter. We should imitate the Prophet ﷺ if we truly claim to love him .
If we claim to love the Prophet ﷺ, we must imitate him in all our actions. This is the deen in which there is guaranteed forgiveness. If we love the Sunnah, it becomes easy for us to reach our destination.
If we have good character, our children will also have good character. We visit the waliAllah to learn good character and learn honesty, not to become pious and become waliAllah.
We should not inflict pain upon anyone and not even towards our enemies. When others are against us, we should be patient and persevere.
The dhikr of Allah ta'ala is not the ultimate goal. Rather, through dhikr, a person is strengthened and is shown the path. In reality, dhikr is the cure, but, good character is our target.
We should assess to see whether we have attained the objective of dhikr. The mistake a student often makes is that he holds full conviction in his dhikr and he hopes for all the results from his dhikr alone.
Nabi ﷺ questioned his companions asking, "Who is that individual who has complete Imaan?" Thereafter he said, "Those with complete faith are those who possess excellent manners."
We must purify ourselves from our sins in this world, so that we may enter Paradise without being punished for our sins in Hellfire first. Those who are pure in this world are those with complete faith.
We must fulfil the five pillars of Islam. However, on top of that, our character should be improved. Good character is scarce nowadays. This is because we have abandoned the place whereby a person's character is improved. If one wishes to reform his character, he must visit the Khankah, otherwise, he will not be successful.
Those who have attended the Khankah, if they would like to know whether their dhikr is successful, they should assess their conduct.
People may be impressed with their outward appearance and clothing, however, these things will only become defects for them if they have bad manners. Instead, they will be criticised for attending the Khankah, yet, still not being reformed.
The true student is successful after acquiring sincerity and good manners and a person attains good character via the spiritual hospital - in the company of a wali Allah. It is not necessary to perform dhikr in order to attain good character. Gazing at the pious people is a cure in itself as the AwliyahAllah are those who are permanently alive.
The people with good character receive the reward of a fasting person and the reward of one who remains awake at night
We shouldn’t fight with each other in the Khankah and display enmity towards each other. The punishment for this is severe as we are destroying the Sheikh's Khankah. One who quarrels will be in Hellfire. To have malice and hatred for one another is destruction and oppression. We should repent immediately from this.
Those who clean the Khankah toilets, will receive Paradise and the angels shake the hands of those who clean the Khankah carpets.
Who has the best manners?
The Prophet ﷺ was sent to the world for his great character. He is the accumulation of the magnificence of Allah ta'ala's splendour which descends from the heavens to the Earth. The Prophet ﷺ is all of this combined.
Allah ta'ala sent Nabi ﷺ to a nation which was very corrupt. The people would bury their daughters alive and engage in such acts that animals would not even perform. Nabi ﷺ faced enemies, yet, his enemies would praise him. He was sent to his people to improve them and they were reformed to the extent that there are no greater human beings to come after the companions.
We should acknowledge our defective character and then visit the waliAllah for a solution. If we forget our objective in his company, we will be destroyed.
How to recognise if we have excellent character?
Nabi ﷺ mentioned that a person with the best character, is he whose wife and children are pleased with him.
We may please everyone, but if we please the wife and children, it is a different achievement. A man has indeed a high level character once his wife confirms that he has great character. This is because the first ones to be impressed by his personality are his wife and children. The wife is aware of a man's inner traits. She is the garment for the husband and she is aware of his secrets. Therefore, we should not rely upon anyone else praising the husband or verifying his good character.
It is our responsibility to raise our children properly. We have the task of correcting them and making them pious.
We worry about the upbringing of our children. We resort to boarding schools for their improvement. In reality, this will not build their character and nothing will be achieved from there. This is because they attend when they are teenagers, however, upbringing begins from the time the child is in the womb of the mother.
As soon as the child is born, the fathers actions are his upbringing. Furthermore, the parents actions reflect upon the children and they witness everything. Our actions definitely impact them. If we engage in wrongdoing as parents, they will soon follow suit.
If we wish to improve our children and grant them the right upbringing, we must be rectified ourselves first. We must not lie in front of our children. We should not display immodesty. No matter how small the sin is, it will be absorbed by the child. Children imitate their parents. If we desire our children to observe modesty and we wish for them to eat Halal, we must be a reflection of that ourselves first.
All acts of worship depend upon good character. Thus, when a person has good character, he also performs various acts of worship. Character comes first and it results in worship but if one performs worship, yet, does not have good character, then it is no guarantee that he will be able to sustain it.
First, we must improve our character and thereafter, we will be enabled to perform worship. Such worship will not be weak as it is performed alongside good character. Such worship will also be accepted by Allah ta'ala.
It is natural for a person to imitate someone he looks up to. Thus, we should be careful of befriending and loving those who are against the Prophet ﷺ. Unfortunately, we perform worship and we imitate the Non Muslims alongside. We should not imitate the nation of the non Muslims, otherwise, we will be reckoned with them in the Hereafter. We should imitate the Prophet ﷺ if we truly claim to love him .
If we claim to love the Prophet ﷺ, we must imitate him in all our actions. This is the deen in which there is guaranteed forgiveness. If we love the Sunnah, it becomes easy for us to reach our destination.
If we have good character, our children will also have good character. We visit the waliAllah to learn good character and learn honesty, not to become pious and become waliAllah.
We should not inflict pain upon anyone and not even towards our enemies. When others are against us, we should be patient and persevere.
May Allah ta'ala allow us to implement. Ameen