DARS 35
The Mahr that Adam alayhi salaam gave to Hawwa alayhi salaam
Saturday 18th July 2020
27th Dhu al-Qidah 1441
نحمده و نصلى على رسوله الكريم،
قال الله تعالى فى القرآن المجيد،
أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
إنّ الله وملإٍٰکتہ یصلّون على النّبى يا أيها الذين آمنوا صلّوا عليه و سلِّموا تسليما
الّلهم صلى على سيدنا ومولانا محمد معدن الجود والکرم
الّلهم صلى على سيدنا ومولانا محمدو الہ ألف الف مرّة
الّلهم صلى على سيدنا ومولانا محمد وآله وأصحابه وبارك وسلم
أما بعد
أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
وَقُلۡنَا يَٰٓـَٔادَمُ ٱسۡكُنۡ أَنتَ وَزَوۡجُكَ ٱلۡجَنَّةَ وَكُلَا مِنۡهَا رَغَدًا حَيۡثُ شِئۡتُمَا وَلَا تَقۡرَبَا هَٰذِهِ ٱلشَّجَرَةَ فَتَكُونَا مِنَ ٱلظَّٰلِمِينَ
And We said, "O Adam, dwell, you and your wife, in Paradise and eat therefrom in [ease and] abundance from wherever you will. But do not approach this tree, lest you be among the wrongdoers."
(Surah Al-Baqarah, verse 35)
After the angels had prostrated before Adam alayhi salaam and Shaytaan had been expelled due to his refusal, Adam alayhi salaam was entered into Jannah. In this verse, Allah subhana wa ta’ala addresses Adam alayhi salaam and tells him that this is his abode. And gave him the freedom of Paradise, to eat and drink from wherever he wanted (apart from the forbidden tree) and enjoy the pleasures of Jannah.
Adam alayhi salaam was created for a reason and that is the hikmah (wisdom) of Allah subhana wa ta’ala. He was created from dust, unlike the angels who are made from light and the jinn who are created from fire. Allah subhana wa ta’ala made the characteristics of Adam alayhi salaam in accordance with where He was to send him. They were different from any other creation.
Adam alayhi salaam was admitted into Jannah, and although it was an amazing existence he still had the feeling that there was something missing. He felt alone and incomplete due to the properties that Allah had created in him and this is the nature of human kind. Just as it is in man’s nature to eat and drink. It is also in his nature to feel alone and isolated if there is no companionship.
Allah subhana wa ta’ala was fully aware of this condition and feeling of Adam alayhi salaam so He had prepared a solution. Adam alayhi salaam needed a companion, a partner and this desire was in him.
Allah subhana wa ta’ala put Adam alayhi salaam into a state of drowsiness, a feeling of almost being asleep and then Allah created Hadhrat Hawwa alayhi salaam from a rib from the left side of the rib cage of Hadhrat Adam alayhi salaam.
When he regained consciousness and opened his eyes he saw next to him a beautiful woman. Hadhrat Adam alayhi salaam was surprised by her presence and asked her who she was. He felt an attraction towards her and this feeling was mutual between them. And Allah subhana wa ta’ala placed love in their hearts for each other.
Now this was only the beginning. The children of Adam alayhi salaam would populate the earth and his offspring would also inherit such emotions and characteristics. And this is why when children reach adulthood they begin to look for partners for them so that they can live their lives with a companion. This is a tradition that started in Jannah from Adam alayhi salaam.
Even to this day, whether someone is married to a person from their own tribe or to a woman from a distant land, there will be love that develops between a husband and wife. And that love for a partner can increase so much that it can become more than the love that person has for his own blood relatives. This is human nature. Sometimes a woman will leave her home, her town, her family to go and live with her husband from another place and that place may have very different traditions and customs, yet after a little time she begins to blend in with the ways of her husband’s people. Even her habits will change to conform to her new surroundings. She gets immersed into that way of life due to the love she has for her husband. Then over time, she gives her new home and her children more priority than the childhood home she left behind after marriage. Now this is something worth thinking about.
Allah created love between Hadhrat Adam alayhi salaam and his wife Hawwa alayhas salaam. You may be thinking that this is not always the case between married people, and there are also reasons for that. However, love and attraction are characteristics that Allah has placed in mankind and is part of human nature. Disagreements between couples is not unusual and is part of married life, and in no way does this mean there is no love between them.
One example of this is that on one occasion Hadhrat Aisha radhiallah anha was discussing something with her husband, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and the volume of her voice became a little bit loud. It was by coincidence that Hadhrat Abu Bakr Siddique radhiallah anhu (her father) came to visit at that exact time. Hadhrat Abu Bakr Siddique radhiallah anhu was angered by her raised voice and slapped his daughter. On seeing this the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam came between them and stopped Hadhrat Abu Bakr Siddique radhiallah anhu. Hadhrat Abu Bakr Siddique was not pleased that his daughter had raised her voice at her husband, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, so he left.
Hadhrat Aisha radhiallah anhu states that when her father’s anger had subsided he was still not able to come into the presence of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for several days because he felt bad for what he had done.
Eventually after a few days Hadhrat Abu Bakr radhiallah anhu came to visit and sought permission to enter. When he came in he found that The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and his wife Aisha radhiallah anha were sat talking, and happy together. And this is the case in married life. Disagreements can happen and the love between married couples bring them back together towards harmony. So when Abu Bakr Siddique radhiallah anhu saw this, he was pleased and said, “Just as I was involved in your disagreement, please also make me a part of your joy and happiness at being in harmony and conciliation.” Subhanallah. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam smiled and said, “Most definitely we have included you in this.”
This was a great example of married life. And as I was mentioning, the mutual love and affection between Adam alayhi salaam and Hawwa alayha salaam was present from the beginning.
When Adam alayhi salaam asked her who she was, she replied, “I am your wife. Allah has created me as a companion for you so that you may be at ease.” Now these emotions of the first human being have been inherited by the whole of humanity. In fact at some point I will go into some detail regarding which characteristics and habits we have inside us that were from Hadhrat Adam alayhi salaam. We inherit many physical and emotional properties from our ancestors.
Now her statement was that she was created to give peace and contentment to her husband. And this is the property of a wife. A point to note is that Hadhrat Hawwa alayhi salaam was created to provide company for Adam alayhi salaam and not the other way around. Hadhrat Adam alayhi salaam was given everything that he needed by Allah subhana wa ta’ala. Allah knows every need of man and then created a companion for man to complete him. To fulfil the needs, and desires of man, Allah created the woman. She provides man with the comfort, the companionship and love that he desires.
And if a wife rejects her husband, it is stated in a Hadeeth in Saheeh Muslim:
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ " إِذَا بَاتَتِ الْمَرْأَةُ هَاجِرَةً فِرَاشَ زَوْجِهَا لَعَنَتْهَا الْمَلاَئِكَةُ حَتَّى تُصْبِحَ "
Abu Huraira radhiallah anahu reported that Allah's Prophet ﷺ said: “When a woman spends the night away from the bed of her husband (refuses to be with him with no just cause), then the angels curse her until morning.
So there is a purpose of physical and emotional compatibility between a husband and wife. And this is why Hadhrat Hawwa alayhas salaam, not only said who she was but also expressed the reasons why Allah had made her a companion for Hadhrat Adam alayhi salaam. She mentioned all those things that a man needs in his wife.
When a man comes home from working all day and having to deal with issues at work and the people outside, he gets peace and contentment at the end of the day in the company of his wife. After the ups and downs and the challenges of the day his wife will help him to relax and forget his worries. She will show him some love and affection, maybe she will massage his head or whatever it is that helps her husband to relax and be at peace. And it is the Sunnah to spend some time with your wives at the end of hard day’s work.
Yes, arguments can happen, and are a part of marriage but more often than not, couples will make up, and will still love each other. Now there are circumstances where two people genuinely do not get along and this is another issue. However in general terms, if both the husband and wife understand their role, then they will develop a strong bond that is not breakable by little arguments. In the main the woman will be a comfort for her husband and the man also loving and compassionate towards his wife.
Now remember that, in most cases a woman will leave her own family, her mother, father, brothers and sisters to live with her husband. And when she lives with her husband, she does everything with him. They eat together, sit together, sleep together and go out together.
Hadhrat Hawwa alayhi salaam explained that she was created for his comfort and as his companion. And not only was she to be his companion, but he too would be for her a companion. So this was the beginning in terms of the rights that are due to a husband from his wife and the rights that are due to a wife from her husband.
The woman’s duty was to provide peace and comfort to her husband and the husband’s duty was to provide her with good company and make her feel secure and ease her anxieties. It is the duty of the wife to provide physical and emotional support to her husband. What are the things that provide comfort to a man? It is to look after the home in way that pleases him and smile at him when he returns home etc. These actions will lead her to Jannah and are the rights of the husband. Likewise when a husband returns home, he should greet his wife with a smile. Expressing this pleasure on meeting each other at the end of the day will lead both of them to a better Akhirah. It is the duty of a husband to provide peace and comfort to his wife, through providing for her, making her feel secure in both body and mind.
It has been related that Allah took a pledge from the Prophets and a second pledge was a covenant with the Bani Isra’eel as mentioned in the Qur’an (Surah Nisaa, verse 154). And the third pledge or promise was made between the husband and the wife (Surah Nisaa, verse 21). So there is in fact a covenant, a contract between the husband and the wife that they will give to each other the rights that are due to them.
When the Bani Isra’eel broke their covenant with Allah, they received a punishment. In the same way, when a husband becomes rude and negligent in fulfilling the rights of his wife then there comes a punishment. And the same when a wife is rude and negligent to the rights that are due from her to her husband. It works both ways and there is punishment for breaking this pact with Allah. My brothers, the rights of your partners are no minor thing. Their duty is to provide peace and comfort to one another. Sadly we live in an age where the people are ignoring this pact. Neglecting the rights of one another will result in discord and disharmony. Happiness will be sucked out of the marriage to the extent that both will not be able to sleep contently at night and will be miserable during the day. They will fight more and utter profanities and nonsense at each other such as criticising each other families etc. And this fighting has a detrimental and negative affect on their children who witness their disputes. Allah reminds us of this big promise that was made.
وَقُلۡنَا يَٰٓـَٔادَمُ ٱسۡكُنۡ أَنتَ وَزَوۡجُكَ ٱلۡجَنَّةَ وَكُلَا مِنۡهَا رَغَدًا حَيۡثُ شِئۡتُمَا
And We said, "O Adam, dwell, you and your wife, in Paradise and eat therefrom in [ease and] abundance from wherever you will.
Allah subhana wa ta’ala told Adam alayhi salaam and his wife to enjoy the pleasures of Jannah as much as they desired.
Now this story of love between a husband and wife would be inherited by the Children of Adam alayhi salaam. And this emotion of attraction will continue to exist between husbands and wives through time. They will give each other the peace and contentment that they both desire. However, in the way that goodness is passed on, so is conflict and disharmony in the cases where the rights of the partners are not given.
Now this promise of fulfilling the rights of one another that was made to Allah had a purpose. Humanity would inherit the earth, it would need the help of good methods and customs to help shape a successful society that would be sustainable and flourish for centuries.
Remember that a good society is built upon the valuing of the rights that are due to one another. And a strong marriage is the pillar of such societies. A home in which there is harmony and love between the parents is a perfect home for a child to be raised.
Adam alayhi salaam was married to his wife in Paradise. You could say that this was the most important event of Adam alayhi salaam during his time in Paradise. How did this marriage take place?
Adam alayhi salaam had been alone in the sense that he was the only human alive, and when he saw Hadhrat Hawwa alayhi salaam it was only natural for him that he would feel an attraction towards her, not only was the attraction physical but it was an emotional feeling of companionship that made him feel complete. This provision of physical and emotional satisfaction is the promise that is made by a husband and wife.
Let me give you the example of when someone purchases a new machine or mechanism. And when you buy it, it comes with a user manual or a set of instructions. And if a person does not follow the instructions or assembles it incorrectly then that will result in the machine breaking down or for it to fail in fulfilling the purpose for which it was purchased. Even if you buy a little switch from an electrical store it will have instructions. If you buy a washing machine, it will have step by step instructions on how to install it. If you don’t install it properly or use it carelessly it will either malfunction or break down sooner than it would had you used it properly. Likewise if you have a car it will need to be serviced and maintained correctly and guidelines should be followed. If you use the wrong parts or do not look after at it as you should, it will become dangerous. In the same way for such an important relationship that there is between a husband and wife, there are guidelines and rules to follow in order for this relationship to work successfully. Allah has not just told us to get married and then live however we want. Without guidance, without a system and without rules a marriage will fail in the same way as a machine assembled without following any instructions or guidelines.
And when we live a life, a marriage without following the guidelines given to us by Allah, then it will eventually break down as we are all witnesses to this when we look at the society around us today. So where is this instruction manual for marriage? Where do we find the methods and procedures to follow for attaining a successful marriage? We need it so that we can read it, study it and apply it to our lives.
When Hadhrat Adam alayhi salaam saw Hadhrat Hawwa alayhi salaam, he reached out his hand towards her, Subhanallah. And Allah subhana wa ta’ala said to him ‘Wait, before you can be with her there is an action that you must do.’
My brothers, Allah informed Adam alayhi salaam that before he could touch his wife he would give her mahr (dowry) and this is the right of a woman. Allahu akbar. This law of Allah started from the very first relationship between a man and a woman. And only after this dowry has been given can the woman be lawfully touched by her husband. It is a condition of marriage to give mahr to a woman.
I will not go into the specifics of Fiqh regarding this topic, as we have the scholars who will explain it in detail. The purpose of this gathering is for self-rectification and to understand that the message of the Qur’an is to obey Allah and follow the Sunnah of His beloved Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And with these actions we must work on Tazkiyah, and that is purifying our inner selves. My friends, these three things (Shari’ah, Sunnah and Tazkiyah) are the principles of Deen.
So what I was saying is that it is essential in Islam for a husband to give mahr to his wife. Remember that it is sinful to consummate a marriage if mahr has not been given. And the scholars will be able to shed more light on what that mahr could be based on people’s circumstances. Many people ignore this important principle of marriage and get married without giving it. If you have married like this, then do not delay, repent and give that mahr, otherwise it will remain as a massive debt upon you in terms of the Akhirah. It is no minor thing.
وَعَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ رَضِيَ اَللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا قَالَ : { لَمَّا تَزَوَّجَ عَلِيٌّ فَاطِمَةَ -عَلَيْهِمَا اَلسَّلَامُ قَالَ لَهُ رَسُولُ اَللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم أَعْطِهَا شَيْئًا " , قَالَ : مَا عِنْدِي شَيْءٌ . قَالَ : فَأَيْنَ دِرْعُكَ الحُطَمِيَّةُ
It is narrated by Ibn 'Abbas radhiallah anhuwho said, “When 'Ali radhiallah anhu married Fatimah radhiallah anha, Allah's Messenger ﷺ said to him, "Give her something (as dowry)." He replied, "I have nothing in my possession." He ﷺ said, "Where is your Hutamiya coat of armour?"
(Abu Da’ood &Nasa’i)
Hadhrat Ali radhiallah anhu was so poor that he had no possessions other than the coat of armour that he wore during battle. And he offered that as dowry when he married Hadhrat Fatimah radhiallah anha. Subhanallah.
In another narration it was narrated that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam sent a person to borrow some money for Hadhrat Ali radhiallah anhu and the amount of that money which was in silver was equivalent to four hundred dirham.
Imam Abu Hanifah has classified this action as mustahab, and the other fuqaha have all stated that the giving of dowry is wajib. So it is a must for a husband to give dowry to his wife before the nikah.
Now in the Indian sub-continent there is a custom called ‘jehaz’ where the family of the bride sends her with all sorts of household items and valuables to her husband’s house after the wedding. And it is often the case that the families of the husband demand this from the woman’s family. Now this is not at all in Islam and maybe a custom from Hindu culture.
In fact it is the Sunnah not to receive anything from the wife when she comes to live with you. The husband must pay the mahr to his wife. The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not receive any gifts of marriage from the families of his wives. In fact he was the one who provided for them. And this was also the case as mentioned in the Hadeeth regarding Hadhrat Ali radhiallah anhu. ‘Jehaz’ is not part of Islam and is from old Indian customs that have been adopted by Muslims from that region.
And there are also other such customs that have no place in Islam. And insha’allah when a person leaves this custom of ‘jehaz’ and follows the Sunnah then they will get excellent reward. The reward for following the Sunnah and the reward for relinquishing an innovation. I mention this as this custom has become so widespread that even religious people do this out of fear of what the people might say. Our duty is to follow the Sunnah and that is for the man to give mahr to his wife and not expect any material value in return.
So when Adam alayhi salaam extended his hand towards Hadhrat Hawwa alayhi salaam, Allah commanded him to give her the mahr that was due to her. Adam alayhi salaam did not know what was meant by ‘mahr’ and he had nothing that was his own to give. So Allah informed him of what mahr he should give. Allahu akbar.
Allah subhana wa ta’ala informed Adam alayhi salaam to recite durood shareef (salutations upon the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam), ten times upon the cause of creation, the final Messenger of Allah, Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. For whom the universe was decorated.
So the mahr of Adam alayhi salaam was to recite durood upon Allah’s Habeeb sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Subhanallah. Adam alayhi salaam then recited ten durood shareef. And the reward of this was presented to Hadhrat Hawwa alayhi salaam and then they were able to commence with their marriage. Subhanallah, what an amazing marriage that took place in Jannah.
Like I said before the traits and habits of people get transferred to their offspring. So it was the case that Hadhrat Adam alayhi salaam taught all of his children the durood shareef. The love for the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was embedded onto the hearts of mankind whether they were Muslims or not. However at that time all the people believed in Allah. And Allah spread the love for His Habeeb sallallahu alayhi wa sallam throughout the universe. And this love was infused into all creation.
And for all nations and people that will come from Bani Adam, when they have love for Allah, the love for the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam will also exist. This love is inherited through generations. However when a person does not believe in Allah and listens to the evil of Shaytaan, then that love is supressed and buried due to the blackness of sins. Despite this, that love still exists and as soon as a person repents and turns towards Allah, that love also instantly shines forth from within him.
Many people from other religions have written the praises of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam including Sikhs and other non-Muslims. In some cases they have even written poetry that will amaze you. One Sikh wrote in his poem that Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) came as a mercy to this world for all humanity and not just for Muslims.
So the point we need to understand is that the love for Allah’s Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is universal and not specific to a few people. But remember that forgiveness will be for those who not only love him but also obey him. And that obedience will only come from those who have kaamil Iman and believe in Allah.
Now we have many Muslims who say that they are true lovers of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. People who will organise gatherings and cry on hearing the praises of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Now this love for our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is in the nature of all men so it is a deception of Shaytaan that loving the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam while being disobedient is more than enough.
The true aashiq (lover) of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam will be that person who obeys Allah and His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and that is the route to success as it is stated in the Qur’an:
وَمَن يُطِعِ ٱللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُۥ فَقَدۡ فَازَ فَوۡزًا عَظِيمًا
And whoever obeys Allâh and His Messenger ﷺ has indeed achieved a great success (i.e. he will be saved from the Hellfire and will be admitted in to Paradise).
How can we claim to be true aashiqeen of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam if we are disobedient to the commands of Allah and neglectful of the Sunnahs of His Habeeb sallallahu alayhi wa sallam? If we are like this and then we hold gatherings, and cry, and show the world how much we love, then it is all just an act.
Remember that the true aashiq can only be that person who obeys Allah and His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and adopts his blessed Sunnah. And when someone is a true aashiq like this then that true love will get a response from Allah.
I would like to mention to you a Hadeeth from At-Tabarani regarding Durood shareef.
عَنْ أَبِي الدَّرْدَاءِ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُوْلُ اللهِ ﷺ مَنْ صَلَّى عَلَيَّ حِيْنَ يُصْبِحُ عَشْرًا وَّحِيْنَ يُمْسِيْ عَشْرًا أَدْرَكَتْهُ شَفَاعَتِيْ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ
Abu al-Darda’ radhiallah anhu relates that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, “Whoever sends blessings (durood) upon me ten times in the morning and ten times in the evening will have my intercession on the Day of Judgment.”
Now this is something certainly worth doing and making a part of our daily lives. Remember this the same Durood shareef that Adam alayhi salaam recited in the heaven as mahr for his wife.
Just by reciting durood ten times in the morning and ten times in the evening on a regular basis, Allah’s blessed Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would intercede on behalf of that person on the Day of Judgement and ask Allah to forgive him.
In another Hadeeth it is stated:
عَنْ عَائِشَةَ قَالَتْ قَالَ رَسُوْلُ اللهِ ﷺ مَا مِنْ عَبْدٍ صَلَّى عَلَيَّ صَلَوةً إِلاَّ عَرَجَ بِهَا مَلَكٌ حَتَّى يُحَيِّيَ بِهَا وَجْهَ الرَّحْمَنِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ فَيَقُوْلُ رَبُّنَا تَبَارَكَ وَتَعَالَى اِذْهَبُوْا بِهَا إِلَى قَبْرِ عَبْدِيْ تَسْتَغْفِرُ لِقَائِلِهَا وَتَقَرُّ بِهَا عَيْنُهُ
It is narrated by Aisha radhiallah anha that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “No servant confers blessings (durood) upon me except that an angel ascends with these blessings presenting them before Allah. Our Lord most Exalted then orders, ‘Take these blessings to the grave of my servant, who shall seek forgiveness on behalf of the suppliant (the one who recited the durood) and who shall be pleased with this.’”
Subhanallah, what a great thing indeed. No durood goes to waste and is an extremely beneficial thing. Allah tells the angel to take the durood to the grave of the person who recited it. Now that person maybe alive but Allah knows when and where he will die and where he will be buried. And that durood will pray for the forgiveness of that person so much so that it will become a source of comfort for him in the grave.
Subhanallah, we cannot even begin to imagine the power of just reciting one durood shareef and how much assistance it will be for us. Remember that the marriage of Adam alayhi salaam to Hawwa alayhi salaam only took place after this mahr was paid. We are all the offspring that resulted from that union in heaven.
Let us conclude todays Dars with some recitation of Durood shareef:
صلے علیٰ نبینا صلے علیٰ محمدﷺ
صلےعلیٰ شفیعنا صلے علیٰ محمدﷺ
صلےعلیٰ حبیبنا صلے علیٰ محمدﷺ
Salle-alaa Nabiyyina Salle-alaa Muhammadin
Salle-alaa Shafee’inaa Salle-alaa Muhammadin
Salle-alaa Habeebina Salle-alaa Muhammadin
Blessings upon our Prophet! Blessings upon Muhammad ﷺ
Blessings upon our Healer! Blessings upon Muhammad ﷺ
Blessings upon our Beloved! Blessings upon Muhammad ﷺ
Insha’allah, if Allah gives us the health and life, we will continue our discussion tomorrow. Remember that this Universe came into existence through the barakaat of the blessed Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. I pray that Allah subhana wa ta’ala gives us the taufeeq to understand the value of reciting durood shareef which is one of the most beautiful things. Ameen.
The Mahr that Adam alayhi salaam gave to Hawwa alayhi salaam
Saturday 18th July 2020
27th Dhu al-Qidah 1441
نحمده و نصلى على رسوله الكريم،
قال الله تعالى فى القرآن المجيد،
أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
إنّ الله وملإٍٰکتہ یصلّون على النّبى يا أيها الذين آمنوا صلّوا عليه و سلِّموا تسليما
الّلهم صلى على سيدنا ومولانا محمد معدن الجود والکرم
الّلهم صلى على سيدنا ومولانا محمدو الہ ألف الف مرّة
الّلهم صلى على سيدنا ومولانا محمد وآله وأصحابه وبارك وسلم
أما بعد
أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
وَقُلۡنَا يَٰٓـَٔادَمُ ٱسۡكُنۡ أَنتَ وَزَوۡجُكَ ٱلۡجَنَّةَ وَكُلَا مِنۡهَا رَغَدًا حَيۡثُ شِئۡتُمَا وَلَا تَقۡرَبَا هَٰذِهِ ٱلشَّجَرَةَ فَتَكُونَا مِنَ ٱلظَّٰلِمِينَ
And We said, "O Adam, dwell, you and your wife, in Paradise and eat therefrom in [ease and] abundance from wherever you will. But do not approach this tree, lest you be among the wrongdoers."
(Surah Al-Baqarah, verse 35)
After the angels had prostrated before Adam alayhi salaam and Shaytaan had been expelled due to his refusal, Adam alayhi salaam was entered into Jannah. In this verse, Allah subhana wa ta’ala addresses Adam alayhi salaam and tells him that this is his abode. And gave him the freedom of Paradise, to eat and drink from wherever he wanted (apart from the forbidden tree) and enjoy the pleasures of Jannah.
Adam alayhi salaam was created for a reason and that is the hikmah (wisdom) of Allah subhana wa ta’ala. He was created from dust, unlike the angels who are made from light and the jinn who are created from fire. Allah subhana wa ta’ala made the characteristics of Adam alayhi salaam in accordance with where He was to send him. They were different from any other creation.
Adam alayhi salaam was admitted into Jannah, and although it was an amazing existence he still had the feeling that there was something missing. He felt alone and incomplete due to the properties that Allah had created in him and this is the nature of human kind. Just as it is in man’s nature to eat and drink. It is also in his nature to feel alone and isolated if there is no companionship.
Allah subhana wa ta’ala was fully aware of this condition and feeling of Adam alayhi salaam so He had prepared a solution. Adam alayhi salaam needed a companion, a partner and this desire was in him.
Allah subhana wa ta’ala put Adam alayhi salaam into a state of drowsiness, a feeling of almost being asleep and then Allah created Hadhrat Hawwa alayhi salaam from a rib from the left side of the rib cage of Hadhrat Adam alayhi salaam.
When he regained consciousness and opened his eyes he saw next to him a beautiful woman. Hadhrat Adam alayhi salaam was surprised by her presence and asked her who she was. He felt an attraction towards her and this feeling was mutual between them. And Allah subhana wa ta’ala placed love in their hearts for each other.
Now this was only the beginning. The children of Adam alayhi salaam would populate the earth and his offspring would also inherit such emotions and characteristics. And this is why when children reach adulthood they begin to look for partners for them so that they can live their lives with a companion. This is a tradition that started in Jannah from Adam alayhi salaam.
Even to this day, whether someone is married to a person from their own tribe or to a woman from a distant land, there will be love that develops between a husband and wife. And that love for a partner can increase so much that it can become more than the love that person has for his own blood relatives. This is human nature. Sometimes a woman will leave her home, her town, her family to go and live with her husband from another place and that place may have very different traditions and customs, yet after a little time she begins to blend in with the ways of her husband’s people. Even her habits will change to conform to her new surroundings. She gets immersed into that way of life due to the love she has for her husband. Then over time, she gives her new home and her children more priority than the childhood home she left behind after marriage. Now this is something worth thinking about.
Allah created love between Hadhrat Adam alayhi salaam and his wife Hawwa alayhas salaam. You may be thinking that this is not always the case between married people, and there are also reasons for that. However, love and attraction are characteristics that Allah has placed in mankind and is part of human nature. Disagreements between couples is not unusual and is part of married life, and in no way does this mean there is no love between them.
One example of this is that on one occasion Hadhrat Aisha radhiallah anha was discussing something with her husband, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and the volume of her voice became a little bit loud. It was by coincidence that Hadhrat Abu Bakr Siddique radhiallah anhu (her father) came to visit at that exact time. Hadhrat Abu Bakr Siddique radhiallah anhu was angered by her raised voice and slapped his daughter. On seeing this the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam came between them and stopped Hadhrat Abu Bakr Siddique radhiallah anhu. Hadhrat Abu Bakr Siddique was not pleased that his daughter had raised her voice at her husband, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, so he left.
Hadhrat Aisha radhiallah anhu states that when her father’s anger had subsided he was still not able to come into the presence of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for several days because he felt bad for what he had done.
Eventually after a few days Hadhrat Abu Bakr radhiallah anhu came to visit and sought permission to enter. When he came in he found that The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and his wife Aisha radhiallah anha were sat talking, and happy together. And this is the case in married life. Disagreements can happen and the love between married couples bring them back together towards harmony. So when Abu Bakr Siddique radhiallah anhu saw this, he was pleased and said, “Just as I was involved in your disagreement, please also make me a part of your joy and happiness at being in harmony and conciliation.” Subhanallah. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam smiled and said, “Most definitely we have included you in this.”
This was a great example of married life. And as I was mentioning, the mutual love and affection between Adam alayhi salaam and Hawwa alayha salaam was present from the beginning.
When Adam alayhi salaam asked her who she was, she replied, “I am your wife. Allah has created me as a companion for you so that you may be at ease.” Now these emotions of the first human being have been inherited by the whole of humanity. In fact at some point I will go into some detail regarding which characteristics and habits we have inside us that were from Hadhrat Adam alayhi salaam. We inherit many physical and emotional properties from our ancestors.
Now her statement was that she was created to give peace and contentment to her husband. And this is the property of a wife. A point to note is that Hadhrat Hawwa alayhi salaam was created to provide company for Adam alayhi salaam and not the other way around. Hadhrat Adam alayhi salaam was given everything that he needed by Allah subhana wa ta’ala. Allah knows every need of man and then created a companion for man to complete him. To fulfil the needs, and desires of man, Allah created the woman. She provides man with the comfort, the companionship and love that he desires.
And if a wife rejects her husband, it is stated in a Hadeeth in Saheeh Muslim:
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ " إِذَا بَاتَتِ الْمَرْأَةُ هَاجِرَةً فِرَاشَ زَوْجِهَا لَعَنَتْهَا الْمَلاَئِكَةُ حَتَّى تُصْبِحَ "
Abu Huraira radhiallah anahu reported that Allah's Prophet ﷺ said: “When a woman spends the night away from the bed of her husband (refuses to be with him with no just cause), then the angels curse her until morning.
So there is a purpose of physical and emotional compatibility between a husband and wife. And this is why Hadhrat Hawwa alayhas salaam, not only said who she was but also expressed the reasons why Allah had made her a companion for Hadhrat Adam alayhi salaam. She mentioned all those things that a man needs in his wife.
When a man comes home from working all day and having to deal with issues at work and the people outside, he gets peace and contentment at the end of the day in the company of his wife. After the ups and downs and the challenges of the day his wife will help him to relax and forget his worries. She will show him some love and affection, maybe she will massage his head or whatever it is that helps her husband to relax and be at peace. And it is the Sunnah to spend some time with your wives at the end of hard day’s work.
Yes, arguments can happen, and are a part of marriage but more often than not, couples will make up, and will still love each other. Now there are circumstances where two people genuinely do not get along and this is another issue. However in general terms, if both the husband and wife understand their role, then they will develop a strong bond that is not breakable by little arguments. In the main the woman will be a comfort for her husband and the man also loving and compassionate towards his wife.
Now remember that, in most cases a woman will leave her own family, her mother, father, brothers and sisters to live with her husband. And when she lives with her husband, she does everything with him. They eat together, sit together, sleep together and go out together.
Hadhrat Hawwa alayhi salaam explained that she was created for his comfort and as his companion. And not only was she to be his companion, but he too would be for her a companion. So this was the beginning in terms of the rights that are due to a husband from his wife and the rights that are due to a wife from her husband.
The woman’s duty was to provide peace and comfort to her husband and the husband’s duty was to provide her with good company and make her feel secure and ease her anxieties. It is the duty of the wife to provide physical and emotional support to her husband. What are the things that provide comfort to a man? It is to look after the home in way that pleases him and smile at him when he returns home etc. These actions will lead her to Jannah and are the rights of the husband. Likewise when a husband returns home, he should greet his wife with a smile. Expressing this pleasure on meeting each other at the end of the day will lead both of them to a better Akhirah. It is the duty of a husband to provide peace and comfort to his wife, through providing for her, making her feel secure in both body and mind.
It has been related that Allah took a pledge from the Prophets and a second pledge was a covenant with the Bani Isra’eel as mentioned in the Qur’an (Surah Nisaa, verse 154). And the third pledge or promise was made between the husband and the wife (Surah Nisaa, verse 21). So there is in fact a covenant, a contract between the husband and the wife that they will give to each other the rights that are due to them.
When the Bani Isra’eel broke their covenant with Allah, they received a punishment. In the same way, when a husband becomes rude and negligent in fulfilling the rights of his wife then there comes a punishment. And the same when a wife is rude and negligent to the rights that are due from her to her husband. It works both ways and there is punishment for breaking this pact with Allah. My brothers, the rights of your partners are no minor thing. Their duty is to provide peace and comfort to one another. Sadly we live in an age where the people are ignoring this pact. Neglecting the rights of one another will result in discord and disharmony. Happiness will be sucked out of the marriage to the extent that both will not be able to sleep contently at night and will be miserable during the day. They will fight more and utter profanities and nonsense at each other such as criticising each other families etc. And this fighting has a detrimental and negative affect on their children who witness their disputes. Allah reminds us of this big promise that was made.
وَقُلۡنَا يَٰٓـَٔادَمُ ٱسۡكُنۡ أَنتَ وَزَوۡجُكَ ٱلۡجَنَّةَ وَكُلَا مِنۡهَا رَغَدًا حَيۡثُ شِئۡتُمَا
And We said, "O Adam, dwell, you and your wife, in Paradise and eat therefrom in [ease and] abundance from wherever you will.
Allah subhana wa ta’ala told Adam alayhi salaam and his wife to enjoy the pleasures of Jannah as much as they desired.
Now this story of love between a husband and wife would be inherited by the Children of Adam alayhi salaam. And this emotion of attraction will continue to exist between husbands and wives through time. They will give each other the peace and contentment that they both desire. However, in the way that goodness is passed on, so is conflict and disharmony in the cases where the rights of the partners are not given.
Now this promise of fulfilling the rights of one another that was made to Allah had a purpose. Humanity would inherit the earth, it would need the help of good methods and customs to help shape a successful society that would be sustainable and flourish for centuries.
Remember that a good society is built upon the valuing of the rights that are due to one another. And a strong marriage is the pillar of such societies. A home in which there is harmony and love between the parents is a perfect home for a child to be raised.
Adam alayhi salaam was married to his wife in Paradise. You could say that this was the most important event of Adam alayhi salaam during his time in Paradise. How did this marriage take place?
Adam alayhi salaam had been alone in the sense that he was the only human alive, and when he saw Hadhrat Hawwa alayhi salaam it was only natural for him that he would feel an attraction towards her, not only was the attraction physical but it was an emotional feeling of companionship that made him feel complete. This provision of physical and emotional satisfaction is the promise that is made by a husband and wife.
Let me give you the example of when someone purchases a new machine or mechanism. And when you buy it, it comes with a user manual or a set of instructions. And if a person does not follow the instructions or assembles it incorrectly then that will result in the machine breaking down or for it to fail in fulfilling the purpose for which it was purchased. Even if you buy a little switch from an electrical store it will have instructions. If you buy a washing machine, it will have step by step instructions on how to install it. If you don’t install it properly or use it carelessly it will either malfunction or break down sooner than it would had you used it properly. Likewise if you have a car it will need to be serviced and maintained correctly and guidelines should be followed. If you use the wrong parts or do not look after at it as you should, it will become dangerous. In the same way for such an important relationship that there is between a husband and wife, there are guidelines and rules to follow in order for this relationship to work successfully. Allah has not just told us to get married and then live however we want. Without guidance, without a system and without rules a marriage will fail in the same way as a machine assembled without following any instructions or guidelines.
And when we live a life, a marriage without following the guidelines given to us by Allah, then it will eventually break down as we are all witnesses to this when we look at the society around us today. So where is this instruction manual for marriage? Where do we find the methods and procedures to follow for attaining a successful marriage? We need it so that we can read it, study it and apply it to our lives.
When Hadhrat Adam alayhi salaam saw Hadhrat Hawwa alayhi salaam, he reached out his hand towards her, Subhanallah. And Allah subhana wa ta’ala said to him ‘Wait, before you can be with her there is an action that you must do.’
My brothers, Allah informed Adam alayhi salaam that before he could touch his wife he would give her mahr (dowry) and this is the right of a woman. Allahu akbar. This law of Allah started from the very first relationship between a man and a woman. And only after this dowry has been given can the woman be lawfully touched by her husband. It is a condition of marriage to give mahr to a woman.
I will not go into the specifics of Fiqh regarding this topic, as we have the scholars who will explain it in detail. The purpose of this gathering is for self-rectification and to understand that the message of the Qur’an is to obey Allah and follow the Sunnah of His beloved Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And with these actions we must work on Tazkiyah, and that is purifying our inner selves. My friends, these three things (Shari’ah, Sunnah and Tazkiyah) are the principles of Deen.
So what I was saying is that it is essential in Islam for a husband to give mahr to his wife. Remember that it is sinful to consummate a marriage if mahr has not been given. And the scholars will be able to shed more light on what that mahr could be based on people’s circumstances. Many people ignore this important principle of marriage and get married without giving it. If you have married like this, then do not delay, repent and give that mahr, otherwise it will remain as a massive debt upon you in terms of the Akhirah. It is no minor thing.
وَعَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ رَضِيَ اَللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا قَالَ : { لَمَّا تَزَوَّجَ عَلِيٌّ فَاطِمَةَ -عَلَيْهِمَا اَلسَّلَامُ قَالَ لَهُ رَسُولُ اَللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم أَعْطِهَا شَيْئًا " , قَالَ : مَا عِنْدِي شَيْءٌ . قَالَ : فَأَيْنَ دِرْعُكَ الحُطَمِيَّةُ
It is narrated by Ibn 'Abbas radhiallah anhuwho said, “When 'Ali radhiallah anhu married Fatimah radhiallah anha, Allah's Messenger ﷺ said to him, "Give her something (as dowry)." He replied, "I have nothing in my possession." He ﷺ said, "Where is your Hutamiya coat of armour?"
(Abu Da’ood &Nasa’i)
Hadhrat Ali radhiallah anhu was so poor that he had no possessions other than the coat of armour that he wore during battle. And he offered that as dowry when he married Hadhrat Fatimah radhiallah anha. Subhanallah.
In another narration it was narrated that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam sent a person to borrow some money for Hadhrat Ali radhiallah anhu and the amount of that money which was in silver was equivalent to four hundred dirham.
Imam Abu Hanifah has classified this action as mustahab, and the other fuqaha have all stated that the giving of dowry is wajib. So it is a must for a husband to give dowry to his wife before the nikah.
Now in the Indian sub-continent there is a custom called ‘jehaz’ where the family of the bride sends her with all sorts of household items and valuables to her husband’s house after the wedding. And it is often the case that the families of the husband demand this from the woman’s family. Now this is not at all in Islam and maybe a custom from Hindu culture.
In fact it is the Sunnah not to receive anything from the wife when she comes to live with you. The husband must pay the mahr to his wife. The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not receive any gifts of marriage from the families of his wives. In fact he was the one who provided for them. And this was also the case as mentioned in the Hadeeth regarding Hadhrat Ali radhiallah anhu. ‘Jehaz’ is not part of Islam and is from old Indian customs that have been adopted by Muslims from that region.
And there are also other such customs that have no place in Islam. And insha’allah when a person leaves this custom of ‘jehaz’ and follows the Sunnah then they will get excellent reward. The reward for following the Sunnah and the reward for relinquishing an innovation. I mention this as this custom has become so widespread that even religious people do this out of fear of what the people might say. Our duty is to follow the Sunnah and that is for the man to give mahr to his wife and not expect any material value in return.
So when Adam alayhi salaam extended his hand towards Hadhrat Hawwa alayhi salaam, Allah commanded him to give her the mahr that was due to her. Adam alayhi salaam did not know what was meant by ‘mahr’ and he had nothing that was his own to give. So Allah informed him of what mahr he should give. Allahu akbar.
Allah subhana wa ta’ala informed Adam alayhi salaam to recite durood shareef (salutations upon the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam), ten times upon the cause of creation, the final Messenger of Allah, Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. For whom the universe was decorated.
So the mahr of Adam alayhi salaam was to recite durood upon Allah’s Habeeb sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Subhanallah. Adam alayhi salaam then recited ten durood shareef. And the reward of this was presented to Hadhrat Hawwa alayhi salaam and then they were able to commence with their marriage. Subhanallah, what an amazing marriage that took place in Jannah.
Like I said before the traits and habits of people get transferred to their offspring. So it was the case that Hadhrat Adam alayhi salaam taught all of his children the durood shareef. The love for the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was embedded onto the hearts of mankind whether they were Muslims or not. However at that time all the people believed in Allah. And Allah spread the love for His Habeeb sallallahu alayhi wa sallam throughout the universe. And this love was infused into all creation.
And for all nations and people that will come from Bani Adam, when they have love for Allah, the love for the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam will also exist. This love is inherited through generations. However when a person does not believe in Allah and listens to the evil of Shaytaan, then that love is supressed and buried due to the blackness of sins. Despite this, that love still exists and as soon as a person repents and turns towards Allah, that love also instantly shines forth from within him.
Many people from other religions have written the praises of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam including Sikhs and other non-Muslims. In some cases they have even written poetry that will amaze you. One Sikh wrote in his poem that Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) came as a mercy to this world for all humanity and not just for Muslims.
So the point we need to understand is that the love for Allah’s Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is universal and not specific to a few people. But remember that forgiveness will be for those who not only love him but also obey him. And that obedience will only come from those who have kaamil Iman and believe in Allah.
Now we have many Muslims who say that they are true lovers of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. People who will organise gatherings and cry on hearing the praises of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Now this love for our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is in the nature of all men so it is a deception of Shaytaan that loving the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam while being disobedient is more than enough.
The true aashiq (lover) of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam will be that person who obeys Allah and His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and that is the route to success as it is stated in the Qur’an:
وَمَن يُطِعِ ٱللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُۥ فَقَدۡ فَازَ فَوۡزًا عَظِيمًا
And whoever obeys Allâh and His Messenger ﷺ has indeed achieved a great success (i.e. he will be saved from the Hellfire and will be admitted in to Paradise).
How can we claim to be true aashiqeen of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam if we are disobedient to the commands of Allah and neglectful of the Sunnahs of His Habeeb sallallahu alayhi wa sallam? If we are like this and then we hold gatherings, and cry, and show the world how much we love, then it is all just an act.
Remember that the true aashiq can only be that person who obeys Allah and His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and adopts his blessed Sunnah. And when someone is a true aashiq like this then that true love will get a response from Allah.
I would like to mention to you a Hadeeth from At-Tabarani regarding Durood shareef.
عَنْ أَبِي الدَّرْدَاءِ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُوْلُ اللهِ ﷺ مَنْ صَلَّى عَلَيَّ حِيْنَ يُصْبِحُ عَشْرًا وَّحِيْنَ يُمْسِيْ عَشْرًا أَدْرَكَتْهُ شَفَاعَتِيْ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ
Abu al-Darda’ radhiallah anhu relates that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, “Whoever sends blessings (durood) upon me ten times in the morning and ten times in the evening will have my intercession on the Day of Judgment.”
Now this is something certainly worth doing and making a part of our daily lives. Remember this the same Durood shareef that Adam alayhi salaam recited in the heaven as mahr for his wife.
Just by reciting durood ten times in the morning and ten times in the evening on a regular basis, Allah’s blessed Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would intercede on behalf of that person on the Day of Judgement and ask Allah to forgive him.
In another Hadeeth it is stated:
عَنْ عَائِشَةَ قَالَتْ قَالَ رَسُوْلُ اللهِ ﷺ مَا مِنْ عَبْدٍ صَلَّى عَلَيَّ صَلَوةً إِلاَّ عَرَجَ بِهَا مَلَكٌ حَتَّى يُحَيِّيَ بِهَا وَجْهَ الرَّحْمَنِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ فَيَقُوْلُ رَبُّنَا تَبَارَكَ وَتَعَالَى اِذْهَبُوْا بِهَا إِلَى قَبْرِ عَبْدِيْ تَسْتَغْفِرُ لِقَائِلِهَا وَتَقَرُّ بِهَا عَيْنُهُ
It is narrated by Aisha radhiallah anha that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “No servant confers blessings (durood) upon me except that an angel ascends with these blessings presenting them before Allah. Our Lord most Exalted then orders, ‘Take these blessings to the grave of my servant, who shall seek forgiveness on behalf of the suppliant (the one who recited the durood) and who shall be pleased with this.’”
Subhanallah, what a great thing indeed. No durood goes to waste and is an extremely beneficial thing. Allah tells the angel to take the durood to the grave of the person who recited it. Now that person maybe alive but Allah knows when and where he will die and where he will be buried. And that durood will pray for the forgiveness of that person so much so that it will become a source of comfort for him in the grave.
Subhanallah, we cannot even begin to imagine the power of just reciting one durood shareef and how much assistance it will be for us. Remember that the marriage of Adam alayhi salaam to Hawwa alayhi salaam only took place after this mahr was paid. We are all the offspring that resulted from that union in heaven.
Let us conclude todays Dars with some recitation of Durood shareef:
صلے علیٰ نبینا صلے علیٰ محمدﷺ
صلےعلیٰ شفیعنا صلے علیٰ محمدﷺ
صلےعلیٰ حبیبنا صلے علیٰ محمدﷺ
Salle-alaa Nabiyyina Salle-alaa Muhammadin
Salle-alaa Shafee’inaa Salle-alaa Muhammadin
Salle-alaa Habeebina Salle-alaa Muhammadin
Blessings upon our Prophet! Blessings upon Muhammad ﷺ
Blessings upon our Healer! Blessings upon Muhammad ﷺ
Blessings upon our Beloved! Blessings upon Muhammad ﷺ
Insha’allah, if Allah gives us the health and life, we will continue our discussion tomorrow. Remember that this Universe came into existence through the barakaat of the blessed Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. I pray that Allah subhana wa ta’ala gives us the taufeeq to understand the value of reciting durood shareef which is one of the most beautiful things. Ameen.
وَآخِرُ دَعْوَانا اَنِ الْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ رَبِّ الْعَالَمِينَ