The objective of Dhikr is to attain three results. If we don't get them, our Dhikr is wasted, just like if we make some effort in the world (say making ice cream) , but don't achieve want we wanted (eg melted ice cream) .
Result 1 - it affects your amaal, makes you do salaah in jamaat, makes you exceed the faraaidh into nawafil, makes you love and follow the sunnah. Stops you belittling the sunnah, you don't feel happy until you do it properly. Inclination to dunya ceases. How long does this take? - could be 1 week, could be 50 years. If you find you are deficient, run to Dhikr, and turn your relatives towards it.
Result 2 - We leave those things that Allah forbids, the haram. Just like we don't try to justify eating pork, we stop justifying all the haram. Doesn't matter if our businesses doesn't flourish, or we lose in the dunya. Eventually, Allah puts the hate of sin into us. For example, there was a lover of music who, after Dhikr, felt it made low nasty crow sounds, and loved the beauty of Quran recitation
Result 3 - the main one. Tafsiyat Akhlaaq. Your manners. Haqooq ul ibaad. To not cheat people, take people's wealth, swear at people, lie at people, backbiting, jealousy, envy. Rasoolullah (saws) told us about the one who had no Deeds to their name, despite have tonnes of salaah and other ibaadat- the one with bad akhlaaq. His Deeds will be given to the people he was bad to. He will be wondering on judgement day where his Deeds have gone - he will find out and then be thrown into hell.
Rasoolullah (saws) showed two fingers together and said Muslims are like this, supporting each other. They said Muslims have rights of each other - to not usurp each others honour, respect and wealth, to not look down on each other.
If the husband forces more from his wife than he should, it is zulm. When he threatens to divorce her when there's a dispute between her and his relatives. They think her parents are weak or abroad, so they can abuse her. And they do Dhikr?
We must even gives rights to the lowest in our eyes - the child. In fact, the child is higher since you have to give, not take.
Without these three, your Dhikr isn't Dhikr. Your so called piety is fake. There are those 40 years with a Sheikh, but they did it for Dunya, for money. Their Dhikr is a waste of time. Dhikr has these results straight away - the sinner will overnight go from Fajr qaza to Fajr jamaat, beard, honest income etc
You can consider your nafs under control not when you do loads of salah, but with akhlaaq - you feed others despite being hungry, hide others faults, forgive people for misdeeds, ie you won't give difficulty to anyone, despite being subjected to it yourself. Then you become Allah's friend, free from worry and fear (it's fear that leads many of us to haram). Such a person immediately returns the favour, if he lightly bumps someone in salaah, he apologises, if his itr causes someone to sneeze, he apologises and stops using it. This is being a friend of Allah, not tahajjud etc, but- love of creation.
And this state is not difficult - just do dhikr, Dhikr of the heart. Loud Dhikr is to help enthuse new people, but silent Dhikr is the key one. Why else would Hadhrat Abu Bakr (ra) do it? And you can do it anytime, not just on your own. And the gatherings are an ocean of blessing, both for the locals and those online.
If you're weak, do dhikr properly, with correct niyat. There was a story of some people who came from Pakistan to see Hadhrat Saahib as a result of an acquaintance who had changed his life - how? Sincere Dhikr
Result 1 - it affects your amaal, makes you do salaah in jamaat, makes you exceed the faraaidh into nawafil, makes you love and follow the sunnah. Stops you belittling the sunnah, you don't feel happy until you do it properly. Inclination to dunya ceases. How long does this take? - could be 1 week, could be 50 years. If you find you are deficient, run to Dhikr, and turn your relatives towards it.
Result 2 - We leave those things that Allah forbids, the haram. Just like we don't try to justify eating pork, we stop justifying all the haram. Doesn't matter if our businesses doesn't flourish, or we lose in the dunya. Eventually, Allah puts the hate of sin into us. For example, there was a lover of music who, after Dhikr, felt it made low nasty crow sounds, and loved the beauty of Quran recitation
Result 3 - the main one. Tafsiyat Akhlaaq. Your manners. Haqooq ul ibaad. To not cheat people, take people's wealth, swear at people, lie at people, backbiting, jealousy, envy. Rasoolullah (saws) told us about the one who had no Deeds to their name, despite have tonnes of salaah and other ibaadat- the one with bad akhlaaq. His Deeds will be given to the people he was bad to. He will be wondering on judgement day where his Deeds have gone - he will find out and then be thrown into hell.
Rasoolullah (saws) showed two fingers together and said Muslims are like this, supporting each other. They said Muslims have rights of each other - to not usurp each others honour, respect and wealth, to not look down on each other.
If the husband forces more from his wife than he should, it is zulm. When he threatens to divorce her when there's a dispute between her and his relatives. They think her parents are weak or abroad, so they can abuse her. And they do Dhikr?
We must even gives rights to the lowest in our eyes - the child. In fact, the child is higher since you have to give, not take.
Without these three, your Dhikr isn't Dhikr. Your so called piety is fake. There are those 40 years with a Sheikh, but they did it for Dunya, for money. Their Dhikr is a waste of time. Dhikr has these results straight away - the sinner will overnight go from Fajr qaza to Fajr jamaat, beard, honest income etc
You can consider your nafs under control not when you do loads of salah, but with akhlaaq - you feed others despite being hungry, hide others faults, forgive people for misdeeds, ie you won't give difficulty to anyone, despite being subjected to it yourself. Then you become Allah's friend, free from worry and fear (it's fear that leads many of us to haram). Such a person immediately returns the favour, if he lightly bumps someone in salaah, he apologises, if his itr causes someone to sneeze, he apologises and stops using it. This is being a friend of Allah, not tahajjud etc, but- love of creation.
And this state is not difficult - just do dhikr, Dhikr of the heart. Loud Dhikr is to help enthuse new people, but silent Dhikr is the key one. Why else would Hadhrat Abu Bakr (ra) do it? And you can do it anytime, not just on your own. And the gatherings are an ocean of blessing, both for the locals and those online.
If you're weak, do dhikr properly, with correct niyat. There was a story of some people who came from Pakistan to see Hadhrat Saahib as a result of an acquaintance who had changed his life - how? Sincere Dhikr